My Unplanned Pregnancy

In response to:8 Week Scan

Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:04:20 +0200

I checked your profile and you're the same age as me. I was pregnant last year and had my baby a whole nine months ago. It was not planned either although I too had plenty of support luckily otherwise it could have interfered with my decision.
I've been there myself and this is a good place to vent out and talk about you and your new baby.

In response to:8 Week Scan

Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:00:08 +0200

Aww, a lickle baby inside you. :)

In response to:8 Week Scan

Tue, 31 Jul 2007 14:01:25 +0200

I've only just come across your blog and I think you've made the right choice. Having an abortion due to another person's reaction to fear of the unknown is the wrong choice, in my opinion.

By the sounds of it, you are in a better position than many women out there. You are financially stable and have a supportive family. That little blob up there is very lucky to have a mum like you.

Maybe you won't agree, but that's my opinion.

In response to:8 Week Scan

Tue, 31 Jul 2007 13:59:49 +0200

aww!!
im glad you decided to kep it. you shouldnt give in just coz its what everybody else wants.
oh yeah and *CONGRATULATIONS* :)

In response to:Defeated - AGAIN!

Wed, 25 Jul 2007 11:00:45 +0200

i agree with sarahgroovy - if you want to keep it you can make it work, you will find out how much you an handle on your own in these situations
good luck

In response to:Relief

Thu, 19 Jul 2007 15:28:51 +0200

Oh good, I'm glad something is settling in your mind. Sometimes you really can count on mums to be there. Just make sure you do think about what you want to do long-term, get your life sorted and see where you want to be in 10 years time! x

In response to:Defeated - AGAIN!

Thu, 19 Jul 2007 14:38:24 +0200

i dont know of your situation butn you won`t be theonly one to want your child if u have it dnt b daft n your family should support you in any desigion-(i cant spell) you make !!!!!!

In response to:Facing the music

Thu, 19 Jul 2007 07:57:00 +0200

Hi,
I do hope your mum suppoted you- to keep the baby. I have never had to make that choice, but if I had, no matter how bad things were, I would still want to hold my baby in my hands.
I know you have heard it all by now- babies are humans with rights, they have emotions, blah blah blah. But I also pray that you will make the ight choice and save yourself emtional trauma that may take you the rest of your life to heal- if you ever heal.
I am here to tell you that keeping the baby is the right thing, and while we may not always be so keen to do right, years from now, when you look at your baby, you will thank God you chose life. Al the very best, and may God's grace be abundant for you, and may you and your baby find favor.

In response to:Facing the music

Wed, 18 Jul 2007 10:00:45 +0200

Hope you are ok. Being a mum isn't easy but it is fantastic. My little boy is now 2 and it has been hard work but well worth it. The first time he said "I love you" I though I would burst.

Take care and Im sure you will make the right decisions for you x x

In response to:So I told him...

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 16:14:33 +0200

I stumbled across your page on the home page and was just reading your posts it sounds like you can't have an abortion. No matter how much J convinces you to have it, you can't do it. You want this child and the only thing questioning it in your mind is J's feelings and opinions about the situation. I don't think its you who should be seeing the counsellor but J. He should even go to one meeting because by the sound of things, he doesn't want to even consider changing his mind. A friend of mine, also 20, had a baby boy 3 years ago, while we were finishing school, she took a year out and started college, she's not the smartest but her little boy is the best thing ever to happen to her. She has become so much more independent and strong-minded. She is flying through college and very happy. She's not with the father anymore but she's still capable of doing it on her own. I think you are one of these people who will squeeze every good bit of juice out of life if you have this child. You'll value life more from it.

I wish you all the best with your choices and hope you can sort something out with J. Please let us know how you get on with your decisions x

In response to:So I told him...

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:37:59 +0200

Thanks for your comments. I know murder is an extreme and emotive word - I blame my Catholic upbringing but I struggle to think of it in any other way.

I am seeing a professional counsellor. I just find writing really therapeutic (plus a great way to kill time at work!), I'm not looking for answers, it's just great to put down the billions of different things going on in my head :o)

In response to:So I told him...

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:35:51 +0200

Think about yourself and nobody else for a minute then ask yourself... do you want a baby?

Everyone is different in how they do things but here's what I would do:

Have a good long hard think about MY future, nobody elses.

I can keep the baby or give it up for adoption.

Am I mentally ready for such a responsibility?

If he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, thats fine. I have enough family and friends who will be there for me.

If I keep the baby it will be a hard and it is for the rest of my life.

This is a really hard decision and I understand that but you're the only one who can make it. Why not talk to your mum about it? Mums can be very nosey and annoying (I know, I'm 28 and my mums STILL wants me to call her to make sure I'm okay when I'm out :) ) but they usually know what to do in this situation.

x

In response to:So I told him...

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:31:08 +0200

You have your whole life ahead of you.

Abortion wouldn't make you a murderer, thats just silly.

Not a decision to be taken lightly but not the end of the world.

It's a world changer being a single parent as young as you are. You really need to get professional counselling as with respect for others they are not you.

In response to:I'm pregnant

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:27:21 +0200

I think because of your beliefs you will have to wait till the child/children are born and go from there.

There are support groups you know.

You are not the first reluctant/shocked half to death mother and you won't be the last.

Good luck in whatever choices you make.

Regards

In response to:So I told him...

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 11:26:28 +0200

Please, please have your baby.
i know I shouldn't be posting this to you; it is your decision but all I know is the anguish of being 54 and having no children. If only I could turn back the clock and be 20 and pregnant....
I know being a single Mum is hard etc but loads of women do it. I'm sorry your man is a complete arse.